Married mother has the seven year itch
I have been married for seven years. My husband and I have two kids. I have a significant problem.
I am extremely attracted to another man who possesses those qualities that I often criticize my husband for not having -- spontaneous, quick witted, fun, exciting -- all the things that life is not always about on a daily basis.
My husband is also quick witted and bright, but is also very bottom line and highly focused on day to day responsibilities that are not so exciting -- job, bills, etc.
I have the opportunity to act on my attraction, which I believe is mutual. My heart says to act on it, and I have mildly flirted already, but my brain says no, because I am scared of the consequences.
Is this natural? What should I do?

I have been going back and forth about this and you might think I'm crazy but I'm really serious. Ok. I have been a 103jamz listener for a while now and I love dablock morning show. I have always thought DJ Bee was really cool. I listen to him give advice on these topics and he seems really down to earth, funny, and grounded. My question is should I tell  him that I'm interested in him romantically? I really want to get to know him, go out and just chill. I know this sounds crazy but I'm totally serious. Is it possible to feel something for someone you have never met?

Sincerely,
Confused

Hello, I am a 34 yr old female and I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. I met him straight out the penitentiary. And we have been kicking it and living together for 6 years. Everything on the home front is great financially, however the love and affection I don't feel is there. We don't kiss or make hot sweat love, it's like a hit it and quit thing and that makes me feel like a whore! I feel into the arms of a young Jamaica man that works with me, however he is 28 and married! And he is going through the same thing that I am going through at home where his wife don't show him any love and affection! And we have been talking for a while, and we make passionate love and he tells me all the time now that he is falling for me and want to be with me even more! We both are in school trying to better ourselves and everything while we are working. My heart is telling me to leave my mate which have been on my mind before i started messing with this dude. I mean I really have falling for this dude and I want to be with him, but he only been in the country a year now and I don't want to rush it but he also want me to have his baby!!! What a woman to do?

I have an awkward issue that until recently I was never embarrassed to admit. I'll be turning 28 in a few months and I've never been in a serious relationship and am still a virgin. For some vague background: I had some serious life issues in high school and a social life was the last thing on my mind. By the time I got to college, I was just trying to calm down and relax, and was more interested in friendship and my schoolwork. After college, there was more turbulence in my life and when everything finally straightened out, the last thing I wanted to do was enter a relationship. I went through some rough years and I admit I had some trust issues because of it.
My life has finally been on a good path for the past year or so, and I figured it was time to explore that unknown territory of dating. Going on dates isn't my problem. The problem is letting anything progress into a relationship or having sex. To be honest, I never thought I should be ashamed of my lack of experience, but I know people can be cruel about it. People tend to either laugh in disbelief and pity, think I'm joking, or wonder what's wrong with me. And I know that you're supposed to go through the awkward learning stages of dating and sex in high school and college. I'm pretty sure men my age won't find it charming to have to take on the responsibility of teaching me about sex and dating. I've found that they're usually looking for someone who has it all together.
So, I need some advice on what to do. Am I worrying too much about this? Is my problem weird? How do I go about admitting to someone that I'm almost 30 and completely new at this?

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