My husband has a problem with porn. We have been married for 12 years and together for 15. At first he would just be on the computer alot looking at it. We have had a computer for around 6 years now and he has gone overboard. We just bought a house and my husband hated his job. After he buys us our beautiful home he forced the company to fire him. This job paid a wonderful wage and was letting us live a nice life. I have just recently found out that my husband asked a 22 year girl to make a porn movie with him and sell it on the internet. Thank God I found out before it happened. I don't know if this was the first or if there has been more. He says this is the first time. I made him make a decision: porn or myself. At that time he chose me. He said he would stop watching it. Two weeks have gone by and he told me now that he is going to continue to look at porn and for me not to threaten him with leaving him over it. It is now Nov. and he still is not working or looking. Money problems now are starting to creep up now. I just don't make enough on my job to cover our bills. He has pulled $9,000.00 in cash withdrawals off MY credit card. Also has maxed his. $10,000.00. He also received $23,000.00 in his 401K. It is gone to. When I ask where he spent it he tells me bills, however we are behind and I just can't believe him. I don't trust him anymore. This is a all day everyday thing, (Movies). He is a flirt anyway and tells me he loves women. This is my second marriage and I was very much in love him. Now I don't know any more. He has chosen porn over me. I feel like I have been replaced. How do I know if he is making these movies or not and selling them. The worst is he is in the movie too. I just want to run and not look back BUT again I loved him so much. I'm so insecure now and don't really know what to do. Thought he was my soulmate until the end. Now I just don't know. So sad. Please help
I have been "talking" to a man for 2 years. Never been on a date, never been out together as a couple. When we hang out its always in the bedroom. It was okay with me at first because I was in a relationship for 4.5 years at the time that was at a rocky point. Fast forward my boyfriend is out of the picture and the 2 year man tells me he wants to work on a relationship until he confesses he slept with another woman and she was pregnant. Fast forward 9 months later and his sons mother lives in his house and he continues to say he doesnt want to lose me. He tells me that he has no choice but to sleep in the same bed with her or have sex with her to keep her happy so she doesnt take his son but that is bull since they were never in a relationship to begin with. He tells me he loves me but I will have to play the side chick role until things are straight with his sons mom.(Even though he have never told me her name but I am around their child). Does it seem worth it to keep going back to someone who wants to have it all or am I just being naive and settling for less than what I deserve?
My husband and I been married for about 2 years. When I met him, he was pursuing his music career. Today, he is still pursuing his music career. His studio is setup on our small apartment. I know as him being a upcoming music rap artist. He going to be around different females.. which is NO problem! But I DO have a problem with females in my house. ( Just him and her) DOLO..while I'm working or not there. I have came to him and told him I feel it is disrespectful and the girl should feel the same way. No woman would like to come to her house and see another female in house with JUST her husband. He says I'm jealous and I have nothing to worry about ... he don't look at her like that... I feel he would NOT like it if it was vice versa. Am I jealous or thats what I put myself into when I started talking to him in the very beginning of our relationship
I am 33 and my boyfriend is 46 and have been together 10 months. We live together too by the way. I am at a fork in the road on whether to move forward (towards marriage) or to leave. One major issue is in the bedroom. He will not kiss at all and doesn't like foreplay on my end. I've explained to him how this makes me feel and wonder if he is attracted to me. However, he has asked on his own or hinted rather that he'd like me to marry him and I blow him off. I can't imagine committing to a relationship like this. However he refuses to seek counseling, to change and told me I'd grow out of need of kissing and romance because only teenagers do that!.