"My son loves wearing his older sister's frilly dress-up clothes and boas. I don't mind it around the house, but now he wants to wear them to preschool. Should I let him?"

I feel jealous around his ex...

My boyfriend (now fiancee) of two years is the love of my life and after some time I accept he loves me just as much. It took me so long to believe he loved me because of his ex-girlfriend whom he was with for five years (she finished with him). You see whenever I was out with him and she was at the same bar, gig, party he would always stare at her or go over to were she was standing even if she was with her new man, it really did my head in and so I continued to ask him why he was doing it, he said he had no feelings for her and they were 'just friends'. Now every thing is alright in that department as he has proven to me he loves me now in so many ways and I trust him. The problem is her, she bitches about me and I even got turned down from a job because she works in the same company, but it's not that, it's just I am so jealous of her: she's pretty has nice clothes a good job and she is so confident. I always compare myself to her and copy her. I can't help it, I just want her to be jealous of me for a change. I don't think I am ugly or a bad person so what is happening to me?? HELP

He feels that he is "missing out" by being in a committed relationship.

I have had a wonderful, supportive, joy-filled relationship with my partner for the past 5 years. We also have a gorgeous three year old daughter. My partner has recently said that though he believes I am the love of his life, he feels that he is "missing out" by being in a committed relationship. He had only ever had casual relationships before we met and he wants to travel, concentrate on building his career as a singer/songwriter and possibly explore other relationships. I am absolutely distraught. He and I both feel that our relationship is nurturing, respectful and a source of joy but he seems determined to explore the "what if". I am afraid that he is making a terrible mistake (although I do understand what he wants) We now have a family and a home and if he wants to go overseas etc I would prefer him to do it when our daughter is older and we can go together or as a family. If he leaves me I know that I will never be able to take him back and I TRULY believe that he will want to return to me and our child. He is a good man and I love him so very much. I want him to be happy but I am so very scared.

me & my boyfriend have been together for 7 months we both have a child, we live together, we both work, we take care of our business. He has custody of his daughter and she lives with us but every blue moon his babys mom comes out of nowhere and blows up the phone and texts non sense gets on fb computer thuggin and its always about me she wants us to be over so bad but she swears she wants nothing to do with him. She said she hates me for trying to be a mom to her daughter?? but the worst part is we cant get her to keep her child longer than 2 consecutive days she's damaged my car & every time I mention "fight" she goes all police on me. My boyfriend acts so clueless when this happens so... What in the world should I do. stomp her face in & shut her up or keep quiet & let it ride?? Help!

Signed:the bigger person

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months. He was living with me for about 2 and then he moved back home with his mom. He was depressed for about 3 years until he met me, and the relationship was great for awhile. Now he won't come and see me, I haven't seen him in 3 weeks and we don't even talk. He hasn't broken up with me and is just keeping me in limbo. I don't want to chase after him but I don't know what to do. I don't understand why he just isn't talking to me anymore. He told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but things have to be sorted out. That I don't understand. What is going on here that I don't understand and how do I go about fixing this problem without looking pathetic? I mean if he didn't want to see me anymore he could of just told me, but when I asked him that he said if he didn't want to see me he would have told me that, so why aren't we seeing each other. I'm soooo confused. Please give me some advice.